It’s such a difficult conflict to resolve, because we each have different “money lifestyle approaches” than our husbands, and they are entrenched in their ways. Not that they’re wrong, but just different.

My husband’s outlook is “you can’t take it with you” and “we could die tomorrow” and he could well be right, but I can’t help but fear that I’ll end up financially destitute when I’m too old to work!! Yikes.

Anyway, I wrote a similar post in one of my blogs, just considering some things that the frugal spouse can do to offset the ways of the spend-happy one:

http://savingmoney-jeanne.blogspot.com/2008/10/5-spouse-spending-strategies-what-to-do.html

Anyway, good luck with it all… I’m in the same boat!!

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Or something like 25% of all ‘extra’ cash goes to “fun”

At least he understands your position. But I know how he can feel. I was in your position before, always harping on saving… But hey, I got out of debt that way and now I don’t worry about buying a $7 coffee.

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I have just been told I am going to inherit a wad of money due to the passing of my Grandmother earlier this year – my instinct is to pay down the debts, my partners – is to keep a just in case fund.

We can’t seem to reconcile the debate…good luck with yours

Fru x

Hearing what other folks have been able to do, some making even less than we did, is of great encouragement and really got us fired up to live on a “rice & beans” plan – and it was so worth it…just a few years later, we’re out of debt except for our house, have an aggressive plan to pay it off, and have a real emergency fund. we still budget (eating out is something we always struggle with doing too much of), but we also have plenty of room for *fun*.

You can stream an hour of the show online every day…maybe hearing other folks’ successes would help him be more motivated to do whatever it takes to get out of the hole as quickly as possible! I know it worked for us! Merry Christmas!

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I have no idea how you guys eventually resolved it, but what I plan to do as we pay off debts is to not do a full snowball. Instead of taking all the money that was paying off debt 1 to continue paying off debt 2, most of it will get applied to the second debt but some of it will be freed up for “fun”. Hopefully that will give us the feeling that we’re moving into a better position financially (and able to enjoy our money), while still using the snowball idea.

Of course, this is all theory at the moment – we’ll have to see how it plays out